Wednesday, April 18, 2018

On Having it All Figured Out

[This is another self-indulgent blog post about my life. You're welcome to read it. If you're looking for a good Youth-Services-related read, check out "There's No Room for 'Priceless' in My Advocacy" by Amy Koester.]

I’ve been spending time with 20-year-old me lately.

It started out because Caleb and I are writing a toast for a friend who’s getting married next month. I met this person in college and we became closer friends in Junior year. I thought that maybe I could dig through my old journals and see if there were any funny stories we’d forgotten about to share.

There wasn’t much of what I was hoping for besides stories we revisit any time we get the chance; because, of course, we are obviously the funniest people we know.

Crossword clue taped on a denim background.
Text originally said "Peggy Lee hit",
has been changed to say "Peg Leg hit*."
This is the front of my journal from 2003.

What I did find, though, were the musings of a version of myself that I hadn’t forgotten but I also hadn’t checked in with in a long time. And I came to a realization:

35-year-old me would scare the hell out of 20-year-old me in all of the best ways.

Friday, April 13, 2018

New design! And a housekeeping note on muting updates

Check out my new design from Chris at On a Roll Designs! Yes, the background is the same LEGO-smiley-people you know and love.

I am planning to migrate content over the next few weeks! To avoid getting your Feedly page spammed with old content, click here to learn about adding me to a mute filter.

If you follow me by email, I'm able to turn off your subscription until everything is done.

I'll be posting some original content in the meantime. I'll post on both blogs so that you'll still receive the content!

When the migration is finished, I'll be sure to update the old one so you'll be alerted to unmute this one!

(Gotta say, it's pretty fun to know this post is only being seen by like 30 people so far. Hello! Did you know you're my favorites, probably?)

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Updating feeds!

I realized I needed to have a post here in the meantime in order for feeds to start!
Hang tight,
Bryce

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Building Relationships from the Ground Up: An Interview with a Natural

In my last post, I came to the conclusion that one foundation of self-care is creating and maintaining healthy boundaries in working relationships.

Having moved across the country in the past year, I’m in the process of creating and maintaining an all-new set of relationships. And if my social media newsfeeds are to be believed, making IRL friends as an adult is something that a lot of people struggle with.
Three people throwing their fists in the air in unison.
Text reads, "Team friendship!"

To help me start with this reflection, I looked to the person in my life that is probably the best relationship-builder I know: my spouse, Caleb. Nearly all the people I now call friends are people I’ve met through Caleb. He has been asked to stand at weddings several times and he’s a godfather to two. His best friends are those he’s been friends with since FOREVER. And their friendships are not just of convenience, since we’ve moved so far from his hometown in Florida and they still keep in touch frequently. He tells basically every FB friend “happy birthday” and while I don’t understand it he sees is as an important Facebook Friend Role.

Thursday, March 3, 2016

Healthy Boundaries in Work Relationships: Self Care times a Million

“I’ll be what you want until I can’t be that anymore.”

A person in a sparkly green jacket.
Text reads, "Tell me what you want."

I long ago figured out that this was like my motto in romantic-type relationships before I met my spouse. In December 2005, I had recently recovered from an 8 month relationship (that we ridiculously drug out to over a year) followed closely by a three week relationship. The timetables were different, but the arc of the relationship was painfully the same: Figure out what you want me to be, try to be that, get exhausted being that, force a breakup.

Then I met Caleb. I was tentative at first, not trusting myself. And while that sounds terrible as a romantic comedy plot, it actually helped me create the boundaries I didn’t know I needed for us to get to know each other at a slower pace, and form a more lasting relationship.

I’ve held a few different positions in my 11 professional years, and some working relationships have looked similar to my old romantic habits. The feeling that comes up when I examine any dissatisfying or failed relationships is the feeling of being consumed. And when I have attempted to set boundaries once that feeling starts to happen, there are hurt feelings and broken trust.

And I’ve been doing lots of examining lately, because I’m in the first year of a new job again. And as the old demotivational poster goes:

Thursday, September 10, 2015

"It's Always Been Done That Way": An Unsolicited Rant

I have a confession to make: I’m a pearl clutcher.


Okay, so maybe not exactly, but I have caught myself in the title of this post a few times.

While this fact isn’t the most inspiring thing in the world, it’s true. I’ve done some debatably-innovative-depending-on-who-you-ask-but-whatever-I’m-proud things. AND, I’ve uttered the phrase “It’s always been done this way.” Sometimes with a judgy air for the practice; sometimes in earnest and with a tinge of defensiveness.


Black and white picture of a woman clutching her
pearl necklace.
I thought that maybe talking a little about it might shed some light for the “pearl clutchers” and the “change agents” alike, because the perception seems to be that we can’t find common ground; that we’re either one or the other. And I don’t think it has to be that way. In fact, I think that working together, and playing to each other’s strengths, can help us create a culture of librarianship that is overtly kind. And not just because you’re working tirelessly on the Next Big Thing OR because you love every piece of the collection so much that you can’t bring yourself to weed. I see you all. And you have value. And we all should feel valued, because that’s the only way we can do our best work. Together.